People Who Are Afraid to be Alone, or Just Really Meant to be Together?
Now I don't know this to be true and I certainly wouldn't want her to be angry with me but these are my observations... my friend Cr is terrified of being single- Absolutely unequivocally so. Let's hear the tale in its entirity shall we?
Ok in late May/June Cr broke up with her boyfriend of two years. She did this because she had begun to resent C and felt that he had made no changes in the relationship...she also did this because she met another boy, who we will call Lil' M.
She dated Lil' M for precisely one month. During this time she was beginning to talk with C again and she had a little rendevous when she was out in Las Vegas. When we came back from New Orleans, she decided that she wanted nothing to do with Lil' M and that she was going back to C.
Cr broke Lil' M's heart (but she didn't mind because he only told her that she was pretty once...and he was "a cold fish") and went back to C. C was also still hurt with lots of unresolved issues about the break up. We could all be in the car and that Sheryl Crow/Kid Rock song "Pictures" would come on and that would spark a whole controversy about whether or not Cr put "their pictures away" (which she had). It became rediculous, I didn't think that he would ever get over Lil' M taking his woman. And in fact, Cr broke up with him again over the jealousy issue. Who did she get back with...
She attempted to right things with Lil' M. She sent him flowers, they went out a few times and then...she ditched him and got C moved back into her apartment. According to Cr, "Lil' M just wasn't the right guy for her." C, comes back. They both feel like they are meant to be together (no matter what, and that nothing should keep them apart). His friends tell him to stay away from her, but he always follows his heart. Her friends always say, "You'll get back with him," even when she shakes her head adamantly, "NO".
Right after Christmas Cr and C had a big fight. C scared Cr so badly that she told him to leave (he punched a hole in the wall). She told him that she didn't want to see him again. He moves out for the fourth time in a year. Within a week she begins online dating (as I had done eharmony and was telling her how interesting it was), within two weeks she is dating W.
After six weeks of dating W, and after telling me that she could see herself being married to him "and that he had such extrodinary qualities" about him...she decides that she has never fully gotten over C. The very next day she packs up her things and moves into my house. About two days later she initiates contact with C.
C, initially tells her that he doesn't want to talk with her anymore, that they have been through too much and that he can't take the heartache anymore...she calls him the next night after watching the Notebook. He stands firm. The next night he calls her, he has rethought things. He can't leave the situation as it is. He does want to see her. She goes down to watch a movie on Saturday night...she returns on Sunday telling me that they are getting back together and that she will move into his apt (the first he's ever gotten on his own) in April. She goes back down to his apt on Sunday, stays Monday and will again stay there tonight because they want to "reconnect" and bond. They watched the Notebook together and sobbed--because "it's their story--true love lost and then found"...and here I am...
...hoping it will work...but wondering what happens if they break up again.
Ok in late May/June Cr broke up with her boyfriend of two years. She did this because she had begun to resent C and felt that he had made no changes in the relationship...she also did this because she met another boy, who we will call Lil' M.
She dated Lil' M for precisely one month. During this time she was beginning to talk with C again and she had a little rendevous when she was out in Las Vegas. When we came back from New Orleans, she decided that she wanted nothing to do with Lil' M and that she was going back to C.
Cr broke Lil' M's heart (but she didn't mind because he only told her that she was pretty once...and he was "a cold fish") and went back to C. C was also still hurt with lots of unresolved issues about the break up. We could all be in the car and that Sheryl Crow/Kid Rock song "Pictures" would come on and that would spark a whole controversy about whether or not Cr put "their pictures away" (which she had). It became rediculous, I didn't think that he would ever get over Lil' M taking his woman. And in fact, Cr broke up with him again over the jealousy issue. Who did she get back with...
She attempted to right things with Lil' M. She sent him flowers, they went out a few times and then...she ditched him and got C moved back into her apartment. According to Cr, "Lil' M just wasn't the right guy for her." C, comes back. They both feel like they are meant to be together (no matter what, and that nothing should keep them apart). His friends tell him to stay away from her, but he always follows his heart. Her friends always say, "You'll get back with him," even when she shakes her head adamantly, "NO".
Right after Christmas Cr and C had a big fight. C scared Cr so badly that she told him to leave (he punched a hole in the wall). She told him that she didn't want to see him again. He moves out for the fourth time in a year. Within a week she begins online dating (as I had done eharmony and was telling her how interesting it was), within two weeks she is dating W.
After six weeks of dating W, and after telling me that she could see herself being married to him "and that he had such extrodinary qualities" about him...she decides that she has never fully gotten over C. The very next day she packs up her things and moves into my house. About two days later she initiates contact with C.
C, initially tells her that he doesn't want to talk with her anymore, that they have been through too much and that he can't take the heartache anymore...she calls him the next night after watching the Notebook. He stands firm. The next night he calls her, he has rethought things. He can't leave the situation as it is. He does want to see her. She goes down to watch a movie on Saturday night...she returns on Sunday telling me that they are getting back together and that she will move into his apt (the first he's ever gotten on his own) in April. She goes back down to his apt on Sunday, stays Monday and will again stay there tonight because they want to "reconnect" and bond. They watched the Notebook together and sobbed--because "it's their story--true love lost and then found"...and here I am...
...hoping it will work...but wondering what happens if they break up again.
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